No Short Cuts

Any one who wants to learn to play a music instrument must put the time into learning the instrument. There really are no short cuts , no magic button to push to make one better. One must get to know the instrument intimately. Secondly one must put time into practicing. It can't be when one only feels like it but a dedicated time daily to set aside time and play,play,play. Not only will you get better but over time , handling the instrument will be second nature. You will be able to pick up the instrument with confidence and play . I know the more I set aside to practice my guitar , this is how it is.

This analogy may sound strange to apply to knowing your children but I think its true. As a parent there are no short cuts or instant mix to be a good parent. But one thing is absolutely needed , time spent with your children. When children first enter into ones life it can be a daunting task , a scary challenge. It totally upsets the relationship dynamic with your spouse at first because this tiny little baby needs your time,love and attention. But usually that levels out . Men if you want your wife to get back to herself , get your hands dirty. Help out , not just set on the sidelines.But I digress.

Here is the fact , quality time does not cut it . One will not really know their kids by run and gun parenting. Many people also lament TV,Computers etc... but at the same time what about having your kids into a thousand different things. I hold that a parent in these situations can easily become a spectator and glorified taxi driver. If you want  to know your kids spend time with them from the beginning. As they grow older pay attention to what they like , involve yourself without being over bearing . Talk openly and honestly as well. Laugh with them and be with them.Hug them,love them and correct them. Plus be willing to show forgiveness and ask for it if you screw up and guess what , you will.

One thing that I have heard from grown men and women who had all the bells and whistles growing up that they would have traded all those things for their Dad to be there , physically for them . More and more that could be said of a Mom as well, with more and more women working in jobs that demand time away from home.

You cannot be a good parent without time and more time with your children . If God has blessed you with children through either biological or adopted , be prepared to give of yourself , that is the most important thing period.